Unforgiveness:Violations too Big for God to Handle

Unforgiveness:Violations Too Big for God to Handle
by Ana Maria Blevins
2/25/2013

My friend lent me a CD about The Bait of Satan-how he tries to trap us into bitterness and unforgiveness.  Since he’s been around for thousands of years, he knows our family line and can find how we may more easily be trapped (into sin) and into unforgiveness.
This revelation that the trials and offenses that we experience, are designed to cripple us in unforgiveness, was revolutionary, remembering that this is part of the spiritual battle that is waging here on earth.  Like earthly military strategy and military science, the psychological battle can cause the warrior to win or lose the battle.  
Military tactics may include dropping literature into an embattled zone, to cause the citizens to get information and to work for freedom. The enemy, meanwhile, is trying to get the people to think thoughts that will cause them to reject freedom or freedom fighters.  Similarly, God is wanting to give us information that will cause us to turn towards freedom from slavery and bondage, while the enemy is opposing this.
This revelation was Powerful, and then, God dropped something in my lap, that moved me to even greater Freedom.
The most difficult offenses seem to be the ones of betrayal and control.  Having encountered these, a legitimate response is often to cut off those relationships and situations.  In cutting them off, there can be a wall that we build, that can be like a six foot deep cement blockade.  It means, “Never Again.”  The deeper the pain, the deeper the blockade.
Recognizing the violation and the violator is Essential, and to refuse to go along with them is Absolutely Necessary.  The Wall in our minds, however, may be not just Wisdom, but it may be Unforgiveness.
A Good Wall or Boundary, would recognize that a violating behavior is unacceptable.  A Wall of Unforgiveness, however, may be more than a healthy boundary. It may be a structure that we construct because deep down, we believe that God can’t handle this degree of violation, so we have to handle it;  
It may become like a monster in our closet, that we have to keep the door shut on, or it may get out and wreak havoc.  
Is it possible, that holding the doorknob so Hard, and always keeping the door mashed shut, may be exhausting and self-defeating?  Is it possible, that by feeling that we have to keep this in control, that we may feel, deep down, that We Have to Control this, because God can’t or won’t?  
Amazingly, God’s promise is that if we do good to those who hurt us, that we are actually having an effect on them of waking them up to their cruelty, “heaping hot coals on their heads”.  And also, that God Will take Vengeance for us.  He IS our Daddy, and He doesn’t just let us get beaten up.  Wow.  He defends us and He will visit the results of people’s evil actions on them, even in this life.  Not just for eternity, to those who refuse to repent and receive His free gift of forgiveness and eternal life in Jesus Christ.
When I had 3 children, 4 and under, I began having a series of car accidents, where people hit me from the rear, the side, and unbelievably, from the front.  Some people in church laughed at me, although the first accident left me with fibromyalgia for six years, with 4 children 5 years old and under.  Those who laughed at me had car accidents within a few months, and accidents worse than mine.  I wasn’t glad that they had accidents, but I saw that God does Not take it lightly when someone is Unkind to His children, and especially, His children who are disabled and have little children to care for.  He Does say to weep with those who weep.  Don’t laugh at them.    
Letting God handle offenses, looks like thanking God that that demon didn’t get a hold of us (Sid Roth).  It also looks like refusing to get in that situation of violation again, as far as it is in our control.  Then, surprisingly, it looks like saying that God Can Fix this.  People CAN wake up and Stop violating us and others, and it’s God’s Job to stop them, and He CAN and IS working on this.  While we Need NOT and Must NOT go along with other people’s wickedness, we don’t have to feel responsible to never let it happen again.  We do our best to never let it happen again, and we can let God have this battle; He can fix violations that come.  And they WILL come.  None of them will be too big for Him. He will deal with them.  
By forgiving the person, we say that God can handle this-He’s bigger, smarter, and He cares about us and also about the violator.  He knows how to wake them up and cause them to be broken over their sin.  By forgiving them, we say that this situation is NOT the most important thing in my life.  We state that We HAVE a life, and we will trust God, and we refuse to be a slave to fear or anger at the violation.  The violation is Not Right, and we don’t ever need to go along with it or the violator, and by releasing the person to God for Him to deal with, we let go of the doorknob, and let God deal with the monster in the closet.  
Then we can go outside and play.